Are You A Lover Or A Killer, Or Both?

Father Son Child Hunting Mentor
We say we couldn’t hurt anyone, but is that true? I have to ask because you also say you love your family. You say you love your children. Do you love them enough to defend them?

U.S.A. -( They are only words, but I’d never put them together that way.

Are you a killer?

If you asked most of us, we’d say we couldn’t hurt anyone.

“Oh, I would never do that.”

..but then we look a little deeper.

We say we couldn’t hurt anyone, but is that true? I have to ask because you also say you love your family. You say you love your children. Do you love them enough to defend them, or is your love only soft words and sweet feelings?

Oh, you meant that kind of love. that I think about it…

Yeah, that kind of love. Do you love your family enough to stop someone who is hurting them? If you’ll protect the people you love, then you love enough to kill.

What? I love enough to kill. Wow.

Yes. It’s shocking.

Now don’t get me wrong. I don’t want to hurt anyone, and neither do you. But do you understand what I’m saying? Unless you teach the use of lethal force, then you probably don’t ask yourself if you’d kill to protect your family. Sure, you only use enough force to defend the innocent and stop the threat, but that realization makes a huge difference in our behavior. Don’t believe me, then answer for yourself.

What would I do to protect the people I love?

Well, what are your options?

I… I couldn’t kill someone attacking my children.

Is that a feeling, or is that a moral decision you reached after careful consideration? You are the expert about what you can and should do, not me.

It isn’t an easy question. Love means you’ll do uncomfortable things. Ask any parent who cleaned a diaper or corrected a child.

  • You already guard your children’s health in all kinds of ways. You protect them from danger and teach them how to avoid dangerous situations as they grow. You do it every day.
  • You also guard their character. You teach them not to lie, and to avoid liars. Thank you.
  • You protect your loved ones from discomfort. You also protect them from physical harm. You probably look in on your kids as you go to bed, and you lock the doors to your house before you turn in for the night. You are a guardian.
  • You already do a lot, so let me say thank you. Thank you for all the ways you protect the people you love.

Because I study self-defense, I research when, where, and how people are attacked. Will your family ever be threatened? I don’t know. I do know that it happens to thousands of people just like us every day. Are you depending on luck or are you prepared? Now that I can’t answer, but you can.

Because I’ve studied it, I know that you have a right to defend yourself. You have a duty to protect the innocent people who depend on you. What will you do?

Here is something else I learned. You won’t be able to protect the people you love unless you think about it ahead of time. You need a plan when there is no time to think. Everybody does. That is why I’m asking you to think about these uncomfortable questions now, rather than later.

Do your loved ones deserve protection from harm? Who will be their shield until help arrives? What tools and training are required to stop likely threats?

The answers are out there, but you have to ask the questions first.


I gave you something to think about. Please leave your answers in the comment section.

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About Rob Morse

The original article is here.  Rob Morse writes about gun rights at Ammoland, at Clash Daily, and on his SlowFacts blog. He hosts the Self Defense Gun Stories Podcast and co-hosts the Polite Society Podcast. Rob is an NRA pistol instructor and combat handgun competitor.

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Calvin Don Blumhorst

Will I kill to protect myself or others? I’ve asked myself that question several times as I’ve made 73 circles around the nearest star. Once, as I first contemplated military service, again, as a reserve sheriff’s deputy, as a son to my parents, as a husband, as a father, as a grandfather and as a friend and neighbor to people I love and appreciate. I have no way of relating to someone who could not or would not, in those situations, answer that question in the affirmative.


Very well put. I’ve only done 68 circles and I asked that question before I went in the military. My wife and I talked about this question before I purchased her first firearm. We both attended the Civilian Police Academy, conducted by a local Police Department. We both carry regularly, hoping never having to use our weapons, but ready just in case.


This the first thing I discuss with someone looking to buy a firearm for self defense. Are you willing to kill another human being. Almost everyone of them get the thousand yard stare followed by a long silence. For the most part the average person looking to purchase a firearm for self defense has never asked themselves this question. It is the most important question requiring an answer in the self defense scenario. Before what kind of gun do I want or what caliber. If you can’t answer this question before the need occurs. You’ll most likely fail when the… Read more »


It is also a step toward becoming a true adult.
– Asking the tough questions of yourself, then searching your heart, mind, and soul for the answers.
– Realizing that there are certain fundamental questions and decisions that can only be addressed by yourself, that those questions must be asked and answered, and that no one else can do it for you.

It is truly taking charge of, and accepting responsibility for, your life and the lives of those who depend on you.

Wild Bill

, Sounds like a lot of work. I bet there are a lot of people that would not do it. Maybe enough people to form a whole political party!